Who does Angela Sue Garvey work with?

Angela works with high-functioning women who still feel dysregulated in the relationships that matter most. Many have done therapy or personal development before; some are coming to this for the first time. She offers licensed therapy for women in Washington State and coaching for women nationally.

What is self-erasure?

Self-erasure is the learned pattern of minimizing, suppressing, or abandoning parts of yourself to maintain connection, approval, or peace. It's not a conscious choice. It's a nervous system strategy that develops early, when belonging felt safer through adapting to others' moods, needs, or expectations. It often shows up as people-pleasing, over-functioning, boundary guilt, self-blame, and the persistent feeling that you're too much or not enough. Angela addresses self-erasure through the Three Roots of healing: Biology, Belief, and Belonging.

What is the difference between therapy and coaching at Life on Purpose School?

Therapy is a licensed clinical service available to Washington State residents, addressing anxiety, CPTSD, relational trauma, and the deeper roots of self-erasure patterns. Coaching is a non-clinical service available nationally for women who are ready to practice living differently in their relationships, boundaries, and daily habits.

What is the Three Roots framework?

The Three Roots — Biology, Belief, and Belonging — is a framework built on the biopsychosocial model that most healing approaches only partially address. Biology addresses nervous system regulation and stored trauma. Belief addresses inner narrative, self-blame, and identity stories. Belonging addresses attachment history, relational patterns, and family systems. When all three roots are integrated, healing finally sticks.

One-on-One Coaching · Available Virtually

You’d give a friend perfect advice about this. Hi. I’m here to be yours.

You understand your patterns completely. They still run the show. Coaching is where that changes.

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Angela in her kitchen, delighted mid-laugh

yes, even that conversation

You could teach the class by now.

Somewhere in your house there’s a stack of journals, each with about fourteen pages used. Highlighters in colors you picked out on purpose, for books you’ve read twice. You can name your attachment style at a dinner party, and you’ll do it while refilling everyone else’s glass.

So the problem was never information.

Here’s the gap: at 10 in the morning, in your journal, you’re clear. You know exactly what you want to say, and to whom, and why. By 6 that evening, in the actual conversation, the clarity is gone and you’re nodding along to plans you don’t want.

None of that means something is wrong with you. A journal is a safe room. A hard conversation isn’t, and your body knows the difference before you do.

The pattern underneath it has a name:

Self-erasure is when you suppress, minimize, or abandon parts of yourself in order to stay connected and feel loved.

Coaching is where we practice. Saying the thing that gets caught in your throat, out loud, to an actual person. Walking into a room full of new people without rehearsing your exit. Letting someone see the unedited version of you and staying put while they do. Disagreeing with someone you love and letting the silence sit there without rushing in to fix it.

Not another realization. Reps.

How the work is built.

The Three Roots

Biology · Beliefs · Belonging

We find which root is most unaddressed for you right now and build from there. Maybe your body still runs the show despite years of cognitive work. Maybe your inner story is honest but your relationships haven’t gotten the memo. We locate the gap and close it.

Built on the biopsychosocial model, which is established science; the way I apply it to self-erasure is my own developing work.

The Un-Erasing · the 4 E’s

the same map the whole practice runs on

1

Expand

We lay the old beliefs out in daylight and look at them together. Some still fit. Some were never yours to begin with.

2

Elevate

We get clear on the woman you’re becoming, so there’s somewhere to aim that isn’t just “less like this.”

3

Everyday

A sense of self you can actually find on a random Wednesday. Built in small daily reps, so it’s there when you reach for it.

4

Environment

What surrounds you imprints on you. The people, the rooms, the phone in your hand. We shape all of it to hold the new you instead of quietly voting for the old one.

The 12-Week Intensive.

Twelve weeks, one-to-one, to close the gap between what you know and how you show up when it matters. Not a course you watch at 1.5 speed and quietly abandon in week three. A container we build together, paced by the 4 E’s.

Weeks 1 to 3 · Expand

Your personal map. Where the pattern came from, what it has cost, and the quiet contract underneath it, in your own words. You keep the map.

Weeks 4 and 5 · Elevate

Who you’re becoming, named clearly enough that you’d recognize her in a hallway.

Weeks 6 to 9 · Everyday

The skills weeks. Steadiness you can use mid-conversation, then real practice in your actual life. Smallest true thing first.

Weeks 10 to 12 · Environment

Shaping the people and places around you to hold the change, plus a plan for the weeks that wobble. There will be weeks that wobble. That’s not failure, that’s Tuesday.

What’s included

Twelve weekly 50-minute virtual sessions, your personalized one-page map, a practice sheet for each phase, and real between-session support: twice a week, you can send me a voice memo or a message about the moment you’re actually in, and I’ll answer. Because hard moments never check your calendar first.

Where this takes you

By week twelve, you’ve said the true thing out loud and watched the relationship survive it. You can find your footing in the middle of a conversation instead of three days after it. You know exactly who you’re becoming, and your everyday life is built to back her up. I won’t promise it’s easy. This is life-changing work, and I can say that plainly, because it changed mine first.

This is for the woman who’s motivated and not in crisis. If you’re in acute distress, or in a relationship where speaking up isn’t safe, or looking for treatment of a mental health condition, coaching isn’t the right container, and I’ll say so on our call and help you find the right one.

the investment

$2,100 for the full 12 weeks (founding rate)

Payment plan available ($700 a month).

Prefer to start with a single session? $200. And if you decide to go deeper, that first session counts toward the intensive.

Wondering if it’s the right fit? That’s exactly what a free discovery call is for.

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Questions I get asked.

asked and answered, no judgment

What’s the difference between coaching and therapy?

Therapy is a licensed clinical service for Washington State residents, held to clinical standards. Coaching is non-clinical: no diagnosis, no treatment, and not a substitute for mental health care. Because it’s non-clinical, it isn’t tied to license state, so coaching is open to women anywhere. Every engagement starts with a free discovery call that also checks for fit; if what you’re carrying belongs in therapy, I’ll tell you warmly and help you find the right care.

Do I have to live somewhere specific?

No. Coaching is available virtually, wherever you are. Only therapy is limited by state, because licensure is.

What if I’ve already done therapy?

Then you’re in familiar company. That’s most of the women who come to coaching: you understand your patterns and you’re ready to practice living differently inside them. Coaching is the reps, and you’ve already done the reading.

How long is the intensive, and what’s included?

Twelve weeks, one-to-one. Twelve weekly 50-minute virtual sessions, a personalized map you keep, a practice sheet for each phase, and between-session support: twice a week you can send me a voice memo or a message, and I’ll answer.

Can I just do single sessions?

Yes. Single sessions are $200, a way to begin without deciding everything at once. A single session is a full working session, and you’ll leave with something real in hand, not a sales pitch. Many women start there and move into the intensive when they’re ready, and when that happens, your first session counts toward it.

What if I need something more clinical?

Then coaching isn’t the right fit yet, and I’ll say so. The discovery call exists partly for this. If you need clinical care, I’ll help you find it. If you’re in Washington, therapy with me is an option.

Angela leaning on her kitchen counter with a mug, smiling

That advice you’d give a friend? It’s your turn to take it.

You don’t have to be sure, and you don’t have to arrive with it all figured out. You wouldn’t be here if you had it all figured out, and honestly, neither would I. A discovery call is just a conversation. No pitch, no pressure, a chance to say what’s actually going on and hear whether this is the right fit.